What If Being a Beginner Is Exactly Where You’re Meant to Be?
We’ve been taught to value certainty. To have the answer. To be the expert.
And especially if you’re a coach or someone who supports others for a living, there can be this unspoken pressure to always be one step ahead.
But here’s the truth I’ve learned again and again: Being a beginner is a gift—if we let it be.
What If There’s Enough for Everyone?
It’s a mindset that says that if someone else has more, I must have less.
And if I have more, someone else will go without.
This way of thinking is very sneaky. It hides underneath comparison, guilt, competition, and scarcity. And whether you’re a coach or not, it affects how you show up in your work, your relationships, and your decisions.
Taking Care of You After a Coaching Session
If you want to create a sustainable, fulfilling coaching practice, you need space to process, reset, and reflect after your sessions. Otherwise, you might find yourself carrying unprocessed emotions, second-guessing your work, or feeling drained before your next session even begins.
The Decision You Think You Made (But Haven’t Really)
This pattern—flip-flopping, second-guessing, and revisiting decisions—has a cost. It drains time, energy, and confidence. And often, the biggest thing holding us back isn’t the decision itself—it’s our fear of commitment.
Empathy: The Bridge to Understanding
Empathy has a way of softening the hardest edges.
When we feel truly understood, we become more open—to others, to new ideas, and even to ourselves.
The Art of Truly Seeing and Hearing
David Brooks writes, “Seeing another person deeply is not just an act of perception but an act of creation.” When we listen with intention and reflect with empathy, we help the other person articulate who they are, perhaps in a way they’ve never done before.
This is especially true in coaching. When a client sits across from us, they are often confronted with questions, doubts, or dreams they haven’t yet voiced. Our role is to create a space where they feel safe enough to explore.
Just Because
The simple answer is that our intuition, heart, energy, or gut always knows, and we can choose to listen.
A more complex (and honest) answer is that we also seek external approval, which means that no one’s feelings are hurt, and we aren’t judged. This makes listening to and honoring our wants very challenging.
Understanding this, here’s an approach you can take this week to incorporate more of doing what you want.
Your Brain Loves to be Right
I have spent an extraordinary amount of my life wishing that I was smarter than I am.
I’ve been self-conscious about this for as long as I can remember.
Bounce Back – Making Setbacks Success
Failing well means fully accepting the experience—acknowledging that we didn’t achieve the goal and the flood of emotions that come with it, such as disappointment, rejection, or embarrassment.
Don’t Believe Everything You Think
Self-doubt is based in fear, not facts.
Self-doubt feeds on fear—fear of failure, fear of judgment, fear of not fitting in, fear of missing out, or fear of success.
It tries to pursuade you to stay where it’s “safe,” rather than risk trying something you haven’t done before.
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