Thinking vs. Doing: Why Your Busy Brain Isn’t Always Progress
And when your brain is working really hard at thinking, it can trick you into believing you’re moving forward, when in reality, nothing is happening outside your head.
No decision has been made. No action has been taken. There’s nothing you could point to as proof.
Thinking feels busy. Doing creates evidence.
The Quiet Restlessness You Can’t Ignore
What you’re feeling is a stirring. A knowing.
A subtle, persistent sense that there is more of you waiting to be expressed.
You know you have gifts that aren’t being fully used.
You see a bigger contribution you’re meant to make.
You understand your life has been preparing you for something else, but you haven’t quite put your finger on what that is.
Collecting Evidence of What’s Working
The problem arises when we only believe biased stories, assuming that the bad is the whole truth.
That’s why one of the most valuable practices we can create, especially as parents, partners, coaches, and leaders, is to collect evidence of everything that is working intentionally.
Integrity. Humility. Love. How I Use These Core Values in Life, Leadership, and Coaching
These values are not just aspirational, they’re my practical tools used in day-to-day activities inside my business (and life).
It All Started with a Juicy Peach
I’d been staring at it for over an hour. My dinner had come and gone. The sky had grown dark, and the city was vibrant and alive outside the window where I was sitting.
The assignment from my life coach was simple:
Write about what brings you joy.
But I couldn’t.
When You Can’t Stop Thinking About Your Clients
A thought. Followed by an image. Then, an insight about what we had just unearthed together. Something I hadn’t seen earlier when I was sitting in “coach” mode, but was now fully landing in the quiet of my kitchen, with pesto shrimp simmering and Noah Kahan playing in the background.
The Emotion I’m Relying On Most Right Now
Because this particular chapter of my life isn’t just asking me to do more. It’s asking me to be more. Someone new.
Someone bigger. Braver. More visible.
More honest.
More whole.
You Don’t Have to Feel Ready First
So many of us turn down incredible opportunities not because we don’t want them, but because we haven’t given ourselves permission to feel unready.
When I Stopped Making Myself Wrong
Every time I completed something meaningful, whether supporting loved ones through a difficult time, hosting an event, or launching a new idea at work, I braced for what always came next: regret.
Not because things had gone terribly wrong. But because I only looked for what had.
When a Coach Fully Claims Her Authentic Way
What If Stuckness Is Just A Waiting Room?
We’ve been taught to panic when things feel slow or when we have to wait.
To interpret stillness as failure or not-enoughness.
We’ve been trained to make it mean we’re not productive enough, not moving as fast as we should, not doing enough.
And I want to gently challenge that.
The Number of Times I Want to Quit My Business (In a Day)
Building a business, finding my voice, writing in a way that connects, figuring out what to say, keeping up with marketing trends, algorithms, and whatever Substack is doing this week... it’s exhausting. And some days I just want to lie down and read a book. (Okay, most days.)
When the Past Feels Like Proof
Hindsight bias is when the past feels like proof of what’s coming.
It convinces you that what happened before is exactly how it will go again.
And it makes the fact that things didn’t work out last time feel like a personal failure you should have definitely seen coming.
What If Coaching Isn’t Just for Coaches?
But the truth is, coaching is a way of seeing and supporting people.
It’s a skill set that helps you show up with more curiosity and less controlling energy.
A perspective that invites reflection instead of rushing to a solution.
And it’s a practice that builds trust—not just in others, but in yourself.
See Leadership Differently Thanks to Coaching!
That was the moment I realized coaching skills weren’t just helpful in the coaching conversations I had with my one-on-one coach. They were shaping how I saw people at my day job—and how I showed up in every room I was in.
What If Being a Beginner Is Exactly Where You’re Meant to Be?
We’ve been taught to value certainty. To have the answer. To be the expert.
And especially if you’re a coach or someone who supports others for a living, there can be this unspoken pressure to always be one step ahead.
But here’s the truth I’ve learned again and again: Being a beginner is a gift—if we let it be.
What If There’s Enough for Everyone?
It’s a mindset that says that if someone else has more, I must have less.
And if I have more, someone else will go without.
This way of thinking is very sneaky. It hides underneath comparison, guilt, competition, and scarcity. And whether you’re a coach or not, it affects how you show up in your work, your relationships, and your decisions.
The Coaching Habits That Are Slowing Your Clients Down
Back then, I felt responsible for the success of every session. If my client wasn’t having big insights, I worried I was doing something wrong. If they were quiet, I rushed in with a new question. If they seemed stuck, I felt like it was on me to guide them out of it.
These 3 Coaching Mistakes Will Drain Your Energy—Are You Making Them?
It took time (and a lot of practice) to realize that coaching isn’t about doing (sometimes forcing) more—it’s actually about doing less.
I’m sharing three early coaching mistakes that drain your energy—so you can move through them quickly or hopefully skip them altogether.
What Happens When You Bet on You?
Most people don’t hold themselves back because they lack ability. They hold themselves back because they focus more on what could go wrong than on what’s possible.
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