5 Coaching Mistakes That Drain Your Energy (And What to Do Instead)
I know this doubt well, because I've been there. Early on, I often worked much harder than my clients. I over-delivered, second-guessed myself, and then over-delivered some more. I constantly worried about whether I was doing enough. Instead of feeling fulfilled and aligned, I felt drained and more doubtful. Instead of trusting my clients, I felt overly responsible for them.
The Bravest Thing You'll Do Is Slow Down
Speed is a coping mechanism. And nobody talks about it that way.
When you move fast, you don't have to feel what's underneath. You don't have to sit with the question that doesn't have a quick answer. You don't have to admit that the life you've built, the one that looks great from the outside, isn't the one you actually want.
Why I Couldn’t Think My Way Out
What wasn’t entirely obvious was the way I was shuffling the same pile of things around, rewriting the same notes, bouncing from one idea to the next. Starting things. Stopping things. Making lists about the lists. And then more lists.
Are You Stuck in the Good-Life Guilt Trap?
From the outside, your life looks solid—even beautiful. Inside, you feel flat, restless, or quietly lonely… and then the guilt rushes in. This is what I call the Good-Life Guilt Trap. In this post, I’ll show you why so many high-achieving women get stuck here and how to start wanting more without blowing up the life you’ve built.
How to Take Care of Yourself in Hard Times (Without Feeling Selfish)
When you understand yourself at this level, you stop making decisions based on guilt, obligation, or what everyone else expects. You start making decisions based on what's actually true for you. And paradoxically, the people around you benefit too, because you're no longer showing up depleted, resentful, or running on fumes. You're showing up as someone who knows what she needs and isn't afraid to honor it.
The Dance Between Hope and Hesitation
Hope arrives like a warm spark — and hesitation rushes in to shut it down. This post explores the quiet tug-of-war high-achieving women feel when they want more from life, and offers a simple practice to stay hopeful just a little longer.
Stop Negotiating Down What You Want
Your brain doesn't negotiate with your dreams because you're weak or undisciplined. It negotiates because it's doing its job. It knows your current life. It can predict it. It knows what it looks like to be on the hook to students, family, schedules, responsibilities, and expectations. It knows where the pressure points are.
How to Become a Life Coach—And Why Everyone Should Learn Life Coaching Skills
Many people search for how to become a life coach because something in their life isn’t working anymore. But life coaching isn’t just for people who want a new career — it’s for anyone who wants to understand their mind, work with their emotions, and lead themselves with more compassion. In this post, I share what life coaching actually is, why self‑coaching is essential, and how ethical, heart-led coaching can change everything.
The Hidden Cost of “I Should Be Grateful”
And I see this all the time in conversations with friends and clients.
Those who talk themselves into being grateful for marriages that quietly leave them feeling unseen and unappreciated.Those who tell themselves they should be grateful for jobs, with all the perks and benefits, that require them to always be “on” and available, living in constant reaction mode.
Women who have built beautiful, rewarding lives and still feel restless, disappointed, or unfulfilled.
They search for words that sound like gratitude to explain how they should be feeling. But their bodies and facial expressions tell a different story.
The Thought I Didn’t Know Was Making Me Miserable
At first, I turned on myself. I told myself I must now be the most indecisive person in the world. I must not be that committed after all. I probably don’t want to grow my business the way I say I do.
But none of that rang true.
What the Millionaires Taught Me About Wonder
I was very aware that I was the least experienced entrepreneur in the room.
I wasn’t intimidated—not exactly—but I was in awe.
What struck me most wasn’t their revenue, teams, or automated processes.
It was their delight.
Blending Families Is Hard—Here’s What Finally Helped Me Create Real Connection
Blending families taught me the hardest truth: I couldn’t control anyone else. Here’s how self-coaching helped me soften, lead, and reconnect to myself.
The Little Things You Do That Matter More Than You Realize
You do so much behind the scenes.
You remember details no one else even notices.
You smooth out rough spots so other people’s lives feel easier.
You anticipate needs before anyone asks.
You offer care instinctively.
You support your people with so much heart and grace that it becomes invisible.
The Courage to Take Your Seat at the Table
There is something sacred about seeing a woman speak a quiet truth she has swallowed for years.
You see it in her face and posture. The energy in the room shifts.
Sometimes it even changes her future.
The Bravest Question We Almost Never Ask
It slipped out of her mouth, and she swept it away so fast, you’d think it never happened.
But I saw it.
I felt it.
There was a tiny shift in her face, a wave that washed over her so quickly it might have been missed if I had blinked.
A wave of resignation.
A look I’ve seen in more women than I can count.
A look I have seen in my own mirrored reflection many times.
The Myth of “Everything’s Fine”
When someone asks how you are, do you answer before you've actually checked in with yourself? Do you feel a subtle tightening in your body, a clenching, a bracing, right before you say "fine"? Have your closest people stopped asking how you really are, because they've learned that "fine" is all they'll get? Do you feel safer when no one knows what's actually going on inside you?
The Sacred Space Between No Longer and Not Yet
If you’re floating between two places right now, I want you to know this:
It’s okay if it feels confusing. It’s okay if it feels like slow, invisible progress.
It won’t last forever. You are moving, even if you can’t really see it or feel it.
You’re in the transition.
You’re in the becoming.
When You Can’t See the Path Ahead
When you’re doing something you’ve never done before, whether pursuing a long-held creative dream, stepping into a new role at work, or reinventing what life looks like after your children have moved out, there is no perfectly marked route.
And that’s exactly where most people get stuck.
How I built a soulful business when I thought I couldn’t
So when I left my corporate career and fell in love with coaching, I pursued it with the quiet assumption that I'd always need to work inside someone else's business. And honestly, that belief led me somewhere extraordinary. It's the reason I became a candidate for executive leadership at The Life Coach School. I wasn't looking to leave. I was all in on someone else's vision because I genuinely believed I wasn't built to carry my own.
The Subtle Ways We Abandon Ourselves (and How to Come Home Again)
As you settle in, you do a quick scan of your day, not a formal inventory, just that little check-in we can’t help but do. What kind of day was it? How did I do today? And how am I feeling right now?
And the truth is, you’re not exactly sure how to name the emotion.
It isn’t failure. You got so much done. You answered the emails, moved projects forward, handled logistics for your family, and kept your promises to others.