When You Can’t See the Path Ahead
When you’re doing something you’ve never done before, whether pursuing a long-held creative dream, stepping into a new role at work, or reinventing what life looks like after your children have moved out, there is no perfectly marked route.
And that’s exactly where most people get stuck.
What If Stuckness Is Just A Waiting Room?
We’ve been taught to panic when things feel slow or when we have to wait.
To interpret stillness as failure or not-enoughness.
We’ve been trained to make it mean we’re not productive enough, not moving as fast as we should, not doing enough.
And I want to gently challenge that.
When the Past Feels Like Proof
Hindsight bias is when the past feels like proof of what’s coming.
It convinces you that what happened before is exactly how it will go again.
And it makes the fact that things didn’t work out last time feel like a personal failure you should have definitely seen coming.
Are You Overworking in Your Coaching Sessions?
Early in my coaching career, I worked with a client who had big dreams of leaving academia. She came to every session full of ideas but rarely took action to move forward. I cared deeply about her vision, so I pushed harder to help her create momentum. I asked more questions, introduced new tools, and even spent time outside our sessions brainstorming how to support her.
The Decision You Think You Made (But Haven’t Really)
This pattern—flip-flopping, second-guessing, and revisiting decisions—has a cost. It drains time, energy, and confidence. And often, the biggest thing holding us back isn’t the decision itself—it’s our fear of commitment.
What If the Best Thing You Could Do as a Coach Is Less?
When you first start coaching, it's natural to equate effort with impact. You prepare extensively. You ask question after question. You introduce frameworks, suggest exercises, and make sure your client leaves with something tangible. It feels productive. It feels like you're earning your seat.
Compassion in Uncertain Times
Compassion isn’t about minimizing pain, having all the answers, or figuring everything out right away—it’s about creating space for tenderness, listening, and kindness, even when things feel upside down.