Taking Care of You After a Coaching Session
When I first started coaching, I didn’t think much about what happened after a session.
I’d wrap up a call, take a quick note, and jump straight into the next thing—a client debrief, an email, another session, or the everyday responsibilities of life.
But over time, I noticed something: I wasn’t giving myself any space to process what had just happened. Some days, I felt drained without knowing why. Other days, I’d replay sessions in my head, wondering if I said the right thing or if my client got what they needed.
Instead of feeling clear and present, I felt like I was carrying the weight of my sessions with me.
That’s when I realized: coaching isn’t just about how I show up for my clients. It’s also about how I take care of myself after each session.
Because coaching is deeply relational work—it requires energy, attention, and presence. And if we don’t pause to reset, we end up holding onto what isn’t ours to carry.
So today, I want to share a simple post-session practice that helps you release, reset, and stay resourced for the coaching work you love.
Step 1: Check In With Yourself
Before you move on to the next thing—before you check emails, scroll your phone, or start another task—take a moment to pause.
Ask yourself:
What felt strong about this session?
Did I remain present, or was I over-efforting?
How is my energy? Do I need a reset before my next session?
I used to rush right past this moment. But when I finally started checking in with myself after each session, I noticed something powerful: the more I acknowledged what went well, the more confident and steady I felt in my coaching.
A quick reflection like this helps you see your strengths, notice shifts, and determine what you need before moving forward.
Step 2: Release Over-Responsibility
Have you ever finished a session and immediately started second-guessing yourself?
Did I say the right thing?
Did I challenge them enough?
Should I have guided the conversation differently?
I used to get stuck in this loop all the time—overanalyzing, overthinking, and feeling like my client’s progress was on me.
But here’s what I remind myself now:
I do not need to have all the answers.
I trust my client’s process, even when it’s unclear.
I showed up with presence, and that is enough.
Coaching is a co-creation. It’s not our job to make things happen—it’s our job to hold the space where things can happen.
And when we trust the process instead of over-owning it, we coach from a place of ease instead of pressure.
Step 3: Reset & Ground Yourself
Some coaching sessions feel light. Others go deep. Either way, it’s important to clear the energy before moving into whatever’s next.
I used to ignore this, thinking I don’t have time for that—but resetting doesn’t have to be a big, time-consuming ritual.
A few simple ways to reset:
Take three deep breaths and shake out any tension. Movement helps release what isn’t yours to hold.
Jot down a quick reflection, then intentionally close that chapter. Trust that the session is complete.
Step outside, change your environment, or shift positions. Even a 30-second transition makes a difference.
Play a song, sip a cup of tea, or do something small that signals a reset. Let it be easy.
A reset isn’t about erasing what happened in the session—it’s about clearing space so you can be fully present for what’s next.
Step 4: Celebrate What’s Going Well
Early on, I used to end the day thinking about what I could have done better. But when I shifted my focus to what was already working, my confidence as a coach grew so much faster.
At the end of each day, take a moment to name:
A session where you felt fully present.
A moment where your client had a shift or insight.
A way you showed up with care, even in a challenging session.
Coaching isn’t just about what you’re learning—it’s also about what you’re already doing well.
The more you recognize and celebrate your strengths, the more steady and resourced you’ll feel in your coaching practice.
Final Thought: Your Coaching Practice Should Support You, Too
Your energy and well-being matter just as much as your client’s growth.
When you take even a few moments to reflect, reset, and celebrate, you create a coaching practice that’s not just effective—but also sustainable.
With immense appreciation & gratitude. Always.
