The Little Things You Do That Matter More Than You Realize
This weekend, I did something small that felt surprisingly meaningful.
A friend and I had been trying to catch up for ages. You know how it goes. Months of texting “we should talk soon” without ever actually talking. And because I protect my slow, screen-free weekends, I almost postponed again. I almost told myself it wasn’t the right time. I almost let it slide again.
But I didn’t. I opened my laptop, joined Zoom, and we finally talked.
And it was such a gift.
We shared news about our daughters, our midlife bodies, and our coaching businesses.
We laughed a lot. We had the kind of conversation that fills you up in a way you didn’t even know you needed.
Later that night, I kept thinking about how close I came to skipping it again. Not because she wasn’t important to me, but because I have become so practiced at pushing aside the small, nourishing things that matter.
And that is where I see myself in you.
That quiet override.
That quick “later.”
That subtle dismissal of something that would genuinely feel good.
That habit of nudging your own needs to the bottom of the list because something else feels more pressing.
I see this in so many women. And maybe you see it in yourself, too.
You do so much behind the scenes.
You remember details no one else even notices.
You smooth out rough spots so other people’s lives feel easier.
You anticipate needs before anyone asks.
You offer care instinctively.
You support your people with so much heart and grace that it becomes invisible.
Not because it is small, but because you do it so naturally.
You make life better for the people you love.
And because you do it quietly, it is easy to forget that none of it happens by accident. It happens because of you.
This is why acknowledging what you do matters.
Not because the tasks themselves are monumental, but because you rarely pause long enough to notice your own contribution.
When you start to acknowledge what you make possible in a day, something opens inside you. A little pride. A little joy. A little confidence. A little of that feeling that says, “Wait… I actually do a lot.”
And if this feels unfamiliar, that makes sense.
Most of us were raised to celebrate others, not ourselves. We learned to be humble, modest, and helpful. We learned to shine the spotlight outward. We learned that pride was too much, selfish, or unbecoming.
But no one taught us how to stop for five seconds and say,
“I did that. That was me. And it mattered.”
This week, I want to invite you into the practice of noticing yourself.
Noticing the small things you do that keep life moving with care and intention. Noticing the steady ways you show up for the people you love. Noticing the things you handle so quietly that no one sees.
And I want you to let yourself feel proud of them.
Even for a moment.
It does not need to be big.
Or need to impress anyone.
It does not need to be Instagram-worthy.
It only needs to matter to you.
Because the truth is, no one will ever fully see how much you carry and how much you give. Not because they don’t love you or appreciate you. But because only you know the whole story of your day. Only you see the invisible labor. Only you understand how often you create ease for others.
And that means noticing and celebrating yourself is an act of self-respect.
It is how you honor yourself.
And how you begin to see your own worth clearly again.
So here is your gentle invitation for today. Celebrate yourself in any of these ways:
Smile at yourself in the mirror.
Say “great job” out loud.
Put a gold star on your calendar.
Tell a friend something you are proud of.
Write down one thing you did well today.
Take a deep breath and say, “That was me. I made that happen.”
Give yourself five extra minutes of rest.
Treat yourself to something small. A cup of tea. A walk. A quiet moment. A Zoom call with an old friend.
These are celebrations.
They count.
They matter.
And you deserve every bit of them.
With immense appreciation & gratitude. Always.
P.S. If you are struggling to find anything to celebrate, or if you find something but immediately judge yourself for wanting to celebrate it, let’s talk.
You should not have to second-guess the importance of honoring yourself or feel guilty for wanting to feel proud.
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