The Subtle Ways We Abandon Ourselves (and How to Come Home Again)
As you settle in, you do a quick scan of your day, not a formal inventory, just that little check-in we can’t help but do. What kind of day was it? How did I do today? And how am I feeling right now?
And the truth is, you’re not exactly sure how to name the emotion.
It isn’t failure. You got so much done. You answered the emails, moved projects forward, handled logistics for your family, and kept your promises to others.
The Ache of a Wish You Haven’t Let Yourself Have
That’s why these wish list items matter. Not because they’re always life-changing in themselves, but because ignoring them chips away at your integrity, your alignment, your self-trust.
Collecting Evidence of What’s Working
The problem arises when we only believe biased stories, assuming that the bad is the whole truth.
That’s why one of the most valuable practices we can create, especially as parents, partners, coaches, and leaders, is to collect evidence of everything that is working intentionally.
When the Past Feels Like Proof
Hindsight bias is when the past feels like proof of what’s coming.
It convinces you that what happened before is exactly how it will go again.
And it makes the fact that things didn’t work out last time feel like a personal failure you should have definitely seen coming.
Still Stuck? Here’s How to Finally Decide & Move Forward
Decisions don’t have to be perfect to be powerful. The real power comes from commitment—trusting yourself enough to follow through without constantly looking back.