What the Millionaires Taught Me About Wonder
I remember sitting in that mastermind a year ago and feeling like the new kid at school.
There were five of us at the table.
Four of them were multi-multi-millionaires.
Known names in the coaching and online marketing world.
Women who have built rare, extraordinary businesses.
Women whose work I deeply admire.
I was very aware that I was the least experienced entrepreneur in the room.
I wasn’t intimidated—not exactly—but I was in awe.
What struck me most wasn’t their revenue, teams, or automated processes.
It was their delight.
These women were genuinely excited about their businesses.
They were generating ideas, constantly writing in their notebooks, lighting up with possibility.
Everything they said sounded like:
“Oh, that’s a great idea, I could expand on that!”
“Cool, I think I’m going to try this!”
“I’m excited to explore that approach!”
Their ideas opened doors to possibilities.
Meanwhile, inside my head, I could hear my familiar thinking:
“How would you even do that?”
“I don’t know how to figure that out.”
“That seems hard.”
“I don’t have the infrastructure for that.”
“I’m not ready for something like that.”
I watched myself instinctively start shutting ideas down. Closing doors of possibility.
Not because I didn’t want them.
Or because I didn’t care.
But because I was so used to approaching new challenges with heaviness and a feeling of being burdened by them.
With this subtle, familiar “I probably can’t.”
As the 5 of us worked through a guided 10-year planning exercise together, there was a page in the workbook with a simple word list. Dozens of possible emotional states we could choose as our guiding feeling for the next 10 years.
My eyes landed on one word.
Wonder.
And I circled it.
Then circled it again.
And again.
It was like something inside me felt pulled to that word.
I didn’t want to build my business through gritted teeth.
Or approach inevitable skill-building through dread.
I no longer wanted “how will I ever figure this out?” to be my nervous energy.
I wanted wonder.
The childlike, curious, playful, imaginative kind.
The kind where you try something new, not with fear…but with anticipation.
Like:
”I wonder if it will be easier than I think to figure out the next step.”
“I wonder what I’ll create next.”
“I wonder how this will unfold.”
“I wonder what new idea I haven’t even thought of yet.”
Because here’s what I realized in that room:
Their mindset wasn’t more advanced—it was more available.
They had access to possibility, excitement, and innovation.
While I was operating from caution, carefulness, and perfectionistic pressure.
It wasn’t that they were fearless.
It was that they were open.
And that openness felt like freedom.
I started experimenting with inserting wonder:
Instead of:
“How am I going to figure this out?”
I said:
“I wonder how I’ll figure this out.”
Instead of:
“This seems really complicated.”
I said:
“I wonder how this might be easier than I think.”
Instead of:
“I don’t know what I’m doing.”
I said:
“I wonder what I’m about to learn.”
And something began to shift.
When I used to approach a challenge with obligation, I’d brace, shrink, and question myself.
But now, when I bring in the energy and feeling of wonder, my mind expands.
My intuition wakes up.
My creativity gets curious.
Because I’ve found that my brain can’t resist the imaginative playground of wonder.
It starts looking for possibilities.
It reorients toward:
“There is a way and I can’t wait until we to find it.”
That’s the transformation.
And I think this could be powerful for you, too.
Because I know:
You are the woman who often carries the most.
You are the emotional anchor for so many.
You navigate challenges that no one even sees.
And your internal dialogue might frequently sound like:
“I have to get this right.”
“I need to make it work.”
“I should have figured this out by now.”
But what if you tried wonder?
“I wonder how I’ll make this work.”
“I wonder what support might be available.”
“I wonder who might help.”
“I wonder what will surprise me.”
“I wonder what I’ll try first.”
“I wonder how this might go better than I expect.”
It doesn’t eliminate uncertainty. Instead it softens it.
And it doesn’t solve everything. It opens up and activates delight.
And maybe, like me, you’ll notice your eyes brighten a little.
Your thoughts become kinder and your optimism tiptoes back in.
And you remember that you are not walking into the hard, unknown spaces alone.
Your creativity is with you.
Your intuition is with you.
Your inner wisdom is with you.
This week, I’d love to invite you to play with wonder.
Just as an experiment.
Try “I wonder…” on something that feels heavy, frustrating, or overwhelming.
And notice how it feels.
And if this idea resonates with you, if you want to explore it personally, you can always reply to this email and tell me one thing you’re wondering about this week.
Or, if you want to dive deeper into coaching this way with gentleness, with curiosity, with compassion, I’d love to talk about that too.
With immense appreciation & gratitude. Always.
