When the Past Feels Like Proof
Hindsight bias is when the past feels like proof of what’s coming.
It convinces you that what happened before is exactly how it will go again.
And it makes the fact that things didn’t work out last time feel like a personal failure you should have definitely seen coming.
What If Coaching Isn’t Just for Coaches?
You don't have to be a coach to use coaching skills. Coaching is a way of seeing and supporting people — and it changes every conversation you have.
How Coaching Changed the Way I Lead (And Why It Will Change Yours Too)
When someone delays turning in part of a team project, it's easy to label them as disorganized, distracted, or just not committed. But if you pause long enough to consider what's underneath the surface, you might notice something entirely different. Maybe they're nervous about how their work will be received. Maybe they're unsure how to ask for help. Maybe they're mentally exhausted from something happening at home that has nothing to do with work.
What If Being a Beginner Is Exactly Where You’re Meant to Be?
You don't have to be the most experienced person in the room. Staying a little bit of a beginner is exactly where the most meaningful growth begins.
What If There’s Enough for Everyone?
It’s a mindset that says that if someone else has more, I must have less.
And if I have more, someone else will go without.
This way of thinking is very sneaky. It hides underneath comparison, guilt, competition, and scarcity. And whether you’re a coach or not, it affects how you show up in your work, your relationships, and your decisions.
The Coaching Habits That Are Slowing Your Clients Down
Back then, I felt responsible for the success of every session. If my client wasn’t having big insights, I worried I was doing something wrong. If they were quiet, I rushed in with a new question. If they seemed stuck, I felt like it was on me to guide them out of it.
What Happens When You Bet on You?
Most people don’t hold themselves back because they lack ability. They hold themselves back because they focus more on what could go wrong than on what’s possible.
The Relief You’re Feeling—Is It the Right Kind?
Some relief means you grew. Some relief means you left right before you would have. They feel almost the same in the moment, and they leave you in very different places
Are You Overworking in Your Coaching Sessions?
Early in my coaching career, I worked with a client who had big dreams of leaving academia. She came to every session full of ideas but rarely took action to move forward. I cared deeply about her vision, so I pushed harder to help her create momentum. I asked more questions, introduced new tools, and even spent time outside our sessions brainstorming how to support her.
Still Stuck? Here’s How to Finally Decide & Move Forward
Decisions don’t have to be perfect to be powerful. The real power comes from commitment—trusting yourself enough to follow through without constantly looking back.
The Decision You Think You Made (But Haven’t Really)
This pattern—flip-flopping, second-guessing, and revisiting decisions—has a cost. It drains time, energy, and confidence. And often, the biggest thing holding us back isn’t the decision itself—it’s our fear of commitment.
What If the Best Thing You Could Do as a Coach Is Less?
When you first start coaching, it's natural to equate effort with impact. You prepare extensively. You ask question after question. You introduce frameworks, suggest exercises, and make sure your client leaves with something tangible. It feels productive. It feels like you're earning your seat.
Compassion in Uncertain Times
There will never be a time when we're truly free from uncertainty. But there's one thing we can always offer ourselves and others: compassion.
The Art of Truly Seeing and Hearing Another Person
That kind of knowing goes beyond listening to words. It means noticing tone, body language, pauses, and the emotions that sit just underneath what someone is willing to say out loud. It means catching the moment when a client says "I'm fine" but their voice catches, and having the courage to stay there rather than move on. It means reflecting back what you see with enough care that the other person recognizes themselves in your words and thinks, "Yes. That's exactly it."
Unveiling The Transformative Power Of Awareness
Awareness helps you make meaning between what you feel, how you interpret information, and what you do.
This connection is crucial because it shapes how you show up in the world, relate to others, and care for yourself.
Lights, Camera, Self-Doubt Drama
I’ve decided to commit to taking small daily actions that help me be present with my self-doubt instead of using it as a permission slip to stay paralyzed in fear of what could go wrong.
The Self-Protection Solution
The first step is just to be aware as we stare at ourselves in the mirror or sit down at our computers to write and post, to notice that our brain is making meaning of what it is experiencing.
Our brains write a story that is separate from who we are.
And precisely because of this separateness, we can see and opt out of negative thinking.
When My Confidence Hit Rock Bottom
I never expected to feel less sure of myself after certification than before. Confidence doesn't come from more tools — it comes from trusting the ones you already have.
Just Because
The simple answer is that our intuition, heart, energy, or gut always knows, and we can choose to listen.
A more complex (and honest) answer is that we also seek external approval, which means that no one’s feelings are hurt, and we aren’t judged. This makes listening to and honoring our wants very challenging.
Understanding this, here’s an approach you can take this week to incorporate more of doing what you want.
How to Stop Being Afraid of Failure (and Fail Well Instead)
The fear of failure usually comes down to three things: what you'll feel, how you'll talk to yourself and what other people will think. Failing well takes care of all three.